Scripture: Proverbs 5:15-19; 30:18-19; Genesis 1:1; Genesis 1:27; Genesis 2:23-24; 1 Corinthians 6:13, 14-15; Matthew 19:3-12; Ephesians 5:22-32; Song of Solomon 8:6;
As a young church looking down the road at the long life that we have before us, we are filled with questions and opinions about how to live well, what to do next and why following Jesus matters in it all. We need wisdom for living this life and God graciously gives it to us through his Word.
Our Live. Work. Play. WISDOM. series offers us a chance to look at a few of the things that matter most in life. Starting with the book of Proverbs we’ll look to Scripture for wisdom from God on the everyday matters of life. How are we to follow Jesus in our work, sex, marriage, words, money, friendships and more?
Proverbs and Jesus—the Living Word—lead us to see that wisdom begins with “the fear of the Lord” (Proverbs 1:7), that trusting and leaning on the Lord brings “healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones” (3:5-8) and that those who arrogantly reject wisdom’s cry will fall victim to their own brokenness (1:29-33). May we be those who walk wise in the fear of the Lord with humility enough to admit, we’ve got a lot to learn!
From this Live. Work. Play. WISDOM. series comes Stonehouse’s second venture into the book of Proverbs as we seek answers to the many questions we have about sex. Our world can't stop talking about sex but what does scripture say about it? Is the Bible just old news regarding this topic? Does believing what God says about sex turn us into judgmental, mean-spirited, prudes? What about singleness, pornography, abuse, marriage, adultery and homosexuality? Does scripture speak to these things? What do sin, redemption and the gospel have to do with sex?
The aim of this series is simple, we want to stop and listen to what God, the creator of sex, says about sex as we seek to live in response to his truth even in our sexuality.
a few items to help take a deeper look this week or share with others:
“The Gospel and Sex” by Tim Keller
“How Celibacy Can Fulfill Your Sexuality” by Sam Allberry
week one primer:
Our day and time is one that is pervasively invaded by sex. Sex no longer exists as a taboo subject, a private matter, or even simply one small part of human life. Between the overwhelming flood of images that we’re bombarded with on the internet, the multi-billion dollar advertising industry, social media, the modeling industry, pornography, and trends in society that give increasing weight to body image, we exist now in a culture that is obsessed with sex. It is unavoidably prevalent. If it’s not sex you’re buying, it’s a product being sold by sex, perhaps even for the purpose of giving great sexual appeal. It cannot be overstated, sex is everywhere in our culture.
Because this is the reality that we live in and because of our belief in the authority of the Bible, we desire to open our lives to scripture to see what God has to say about sex. Why did God create sex? What is the purpose of sex? Are there boundaries for sex? Why do these boundaries exist? We know that we are imperfect beings, limited in knowledge and experience, who have been shaped and affected by sin. So we humbly approach the topic of sex with a desire to submit ourselves to the perfect Word of the Lord and trust him to re-shape our understanding of this gift he’s given us.
Suggested discovery/discussion questions:
1. The bible gives us many reasons for why God created sex. One of them is for procreation (Gen 1:27). I’m sure we all knew this already! What’s significant about this though?
2. The bible teaches us that God created sex (In the Beginning God…). A. What does that mean for us as we approach the topic of sex? B. As you look at your own life, and your own sexual desires, how does this reality sit with you?
3. We learn from scripture that sex has boundaries (Gen 2:24, Matthew 19:3-12, 1 Corinthians 7:2, 9). This flies in the face our cultural narrative. We place, at the center of all things, ultimate individual freedom without constraint - the freedom to pursue limitless pleasure as we see fit, not as someone else tells us. What’s the problem with sex without boundaries, or living life in general without boundaries?
4. Paul talks about sex in 1 Corinthians 7 as sex being a means of giving pleasure rather than getting pleasure. Is this strange to you? To our culture? If so, why?
5. In light of all of the questions/discussions we’ve gone through, how do we wrongly view sex? Where do we need to repent? How have we mistreated sex? How have we made it about us, not God or others?
6. According to Ephesians 5:22-32, we are taught that sex is not only a gift from a God to be enjoyed, but it is also a metaphor/picture of the future reality that awaits the Christian. That is, the intimacy between God and his people. How does this reality change the way we view sex?
7. So, what does the bible have to say to the single person who cannot practice the God-given gift of sex within the appropriate boundary of marriage?
All of us have sexually blown it. Take some time together to behold the gospel, and the glory of Christ in granting freedom from sexual sin, as well as the fullness that awaits us because of what he’s done for us.
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